They called my grandma and told her I needed bail money.  They made up an extensive story and got her to send $1900 that she'll never see again....

That happened to my boss' mother. And because she is so secretive, it happened to her twice. Her bank actually caught the scam because she doesn't use the internet to do her banking. The third time she went into the bank, the teller became suspicious and they looked into it . THEN mom called her son. They reported it to the FBI but probably the money is gone.

One of the grandsons is a flight attendant which is why she believed he was in trouble overseas. And of course they use the 'don't tell mom or dad' line as well.

You need to let your bank know if she took money or transferred it through her bank. At the very least call your local FBI office and file a report.

What will  the FBI  do though?  what if they don't even believe us,m

Oh, they'll believe you -- this has happened to a lot of people. Please, by all means, file a report.

Okay yeah,  it just seems intimidating talking to  the FBI..  should I just call the police and file a report?  Do you think there's any way they could get her money back?